Podcaster Jana Hocking has three tips that will get you out of “heartbreak hell” – stating one that will have you back in no time.
It’s time for confession… I’ve had some heartaches lately.
It ticks all the boxes in terms of physical and mental side effects. Loss of appetite, moments of deep sadness, sense of loss and general struggle to stay focused.
It’s been a good time between the heartaches, but I admit it.
So, I did what I always do, I turned to Googlesphere around 2 a.m. Tuesday night, to find a quick fix to help with my broken heart and get back into the game.
Unfortunately, that didn’t give me much hope. So I shamelessly took to Instagram and asked people to come to the podcast and share some tips and tricks that worked for them in a similar situation. And I’m happy to say that I found what I was looking for!
In fact, I was overwhelmed with love and help. However, three people really stood out with their remedies. So, if you find yourself in a similar situation right now, here’s what worked for them…and now for me!
1. OK so this is by far the cutest!
One of my guests revealed that he had been dumped in full confinement. Ouch!
His partner has moved away, and he hasn’t even been able to go to the pub with friends to let off steam over a good glass of Syrah! No, he was stuck indoors while a global pandemic was doing the rounds.
So, during a heartwarming phone call with her mom, she suggested that she download the Harry Potter audiobooks, voiced by the big hot cover known as Stephen Fry, and listen to them while doing hot laps within the 5km radius of his house. They didn’t feature any form of ridiculous romance that would make her miss her ex, and let’s be honest, it’s impossible not to get caught up in it.
He found that for an entire hour of the day he could put on his headphones, get out into the fresh air, and get caught up in all things Hogwarts. It was heaven in his overthinking brain.
2. Ask your friends to write you a love letter.
I don’t know if you’ve ever read Dolly Alderton’s memoir, also known as the ultimate singles bible, all i know about love.
But the general lesson she learned while writing the book (which is now a BRILLIANT TV series about Stan) is that guys come and go, but your real, unshakeable relationships will always be with the friends who have stood by you all this time.
They held your hair back while you threw up after choosing vodka over therapy to deal with heartbreak. They firmly got away with it when you tried to call the ex who stomped on your heart, and they constantly reminded you why you deserve better.
So when one of my podcast guests revealed that when she was in the midst of absolute misery, she asked her friends to send her a handwritten letter describing her positive qualities, I thought…genius!
Look, if you’re anything like me, when a guy dumps you, you’ll dive deep into whatever you think is wrong with you.
What gave him the ick? Was it your bad breath in the morning? The way you ate spaghetti? Your high forehead? Honestly, the brain goes to weird places when you’re feeling bad, and you may start to believe it as fact.
Yes, self-esteem really takes a hit during this time. So why not ask some friends to remind you why they think you’re so damn fabulous. The upside is that you’ll have these letters forever and can refer to them when you feel completely clueless.
3. And finally the Samantha Jones method.
Yes, dear reader, if you already binge sex and the city as far as I have it, you will know that good medicine is brought to us by the most superior member of the cast… Samantha Jones. Who says: “Oh honey, to overcome someone, you have to go under someone!”
Do you know what’s better than pining for your ex? Having hot and steamy sex with a stranger.
Listen, I’m not saying this is a long term cure, but it can definitely be good in the short term. Just be sure to wear a condom. Hell, no one has time for a baby or an STD in the middle of a breakup.
But honestly, if you need a quick fix to get your kidneys moving, why not give it a try?
Now be kind to yourself and give yourself time. It will eventually get better.
Jana Hocking is a podcaster and collector of boyfriend genres. | @jana_hocking
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